Feeling anxious and sad has become exhausting.
Maybe your fear of disappointing others is making you so anxious that you feel you’re beginning to lose control of your life. Perhaps your overwhelming fear of failure is holding you back from pursuing your goals. Perhaps, more and more frequently, you are finding yourself paralyzed in the face of a challenge— so much so that you shrink into yourself, only to feel ashamed of your reaction.
You acknowledge your low self-esteem, and you notice how it’s impacting every facet of your life. You are:
Hindered professionally— you feel overlooked, but you are frightened by change and opportunity— so much so that you often miss out.
Struggling relationally— you feel responsible for making other people happy, and your fear of disappointing them often pressures you to neglect your own needs. Sometimes you even feel ashamed for how you have let others mistreat you.
Suffering personally— you are your own worst critic, and you often have a hard time accepting your strengths and taking credit for your achievements. You are frequently much too hard on yourself, and it can take hours to work yourself out of your anxiety and sadness.
But you want to feel free and to become the best version of yourself. You are certain of that!
Self-esteem counseling can help.
Together, we will:
Identify your fears
Gain clarity on how you reinforce them— both within yourself and in your relationships
Build strategies to respond to these fears in a way that enhances your natural strengths and increases your confidence
Practice these strategies in session so you feel better able to apply them to your everyday life
Collaboratively monitor the effectiveness of these strategies and modify them as needed
I’ll help you through this process, one step at a time. My approach to self-esteem counseling is rooted in compassion and in the belief that healthy self-esteem lays the foundation for happier relationships with ourselves, our family, and our society.
My approach is also practical and integrates well-established therapeutic methods. I use approaches such as Solution-Focused Therapy, Narrative Therapy, and Internal Family Systems Therapy. What that means is that I will facilitate our work together in a goal-oriented but creative and dynamic fashion. My aim is to help you enhance your ability to take good care of your self-esteem. When you do so, you will be able to grant yourself the freedom to overcome challenges and to flourish.
FAQ about Self-Esteem Counseling
1. What does “self-esteem” mean?
“Self-esteem” is the way— and degree to which— we evaluate our worth. People with “higher” or “healthier” self-esteem do not always feel confident or successful. In fact, many accomplished individuals struggle with self-esteem! However, those with healthier self-esteem exude confidence because they are continuously practicing how to be resilient and how to embrace who they are as a whole. That means that they learn to accept their failures, successes, strengths, and weaknesses— past and present.
In other words, people with more positive self-esteem still feel defeated or hurt just as any healthy person would and should. The difference is that they value their worth, they learn how to be compassionate towards themselves, and they repeatedly challenge themselves to become the best they can be.
2. How does self-esteem affect mental health?
Self-esteem impacts every aspect of our lives— how we respond to challenges at work, how we connect with our peers, how we resolve conflict with our partner, how we discipline and praise our children, and how we take care of our own physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual needs.
With healthier self-esteem, we are more resilient and less likely to feel trapped by negative situations or unpleasant emotions; we handle life’s difficulties better. This helps us to take better care of ourselves, enhance the quality of our relationships, and improve our professional performance, all of which contribute to better emotional health and a happier life!
3. Can self-esteem be improved?
It definitely can! All human beings have the innate ability to evolve and heal (think about how babies learn to walk or how our skin naturally mends itself). While some of us may have personalities that are more susceptible to self-criticism or self-doubt, much of our self-esteem is shaped by our life experiences. Improving our self-esteem therefore requires re-shaping what we think about ourselves and how we interact with the world, and we can begin this through counseling!
4. How can I get started with self-esteem counseling?
Schedule a free 20-minute phone consultation with me by clicking the button below. We will discuss what has led you to seek self-esteem counseling, and I will answer any questions you might have; this will help us determine if we are a “good fit.” If we both choose to move forward, we will schedule our intake session. I look forward to hearing from you!